If you’re a parent, then by definition you’re busy and also quite possibly overwhelmed. When that’s the case, it’s time to rethink our approach and seek perspective.
Here are five TED Talks that will inspire you to uncover happiness in parenting, seize the reins of your work-life balance, live passionately, learn passionately and mentor children who fall on the autism spectrum.
For Parents, Happiness is a Very High Bar by Jennifer Senior
Jennifer Senior is an author on modern parenting, a writer for The New York Times and a mom. In this insightful talk, Senior examines the trend of today’s parents to micromanage their children’s lives, from checking homework to enrolling their children in countless extracurricular activities and shouldering responsibility for their children’s happiness. Senior commends parents on their well-intentioned efforts to ensure their children’s success, but cautions that this level of hyper-immersion is leaving parents overburdened and children overscheduled.
Instead of this exhausting child-rearing model, Senior suggests that parents return to focusing on raising productive and moral kids by teaching children the importance of decency, a strong work ethic and love. Senior contends that this shift away from micromanagement and toward overarching values will benefit parents by facilitating a more gratifying parenting experience. Likewise, children will benefit from the opportunity to accomplish goals on their own within a less-stressed household.
How to Make Work-Life Balance Work by Nigel Marsh
Nigel Marsh is a self-proclaimed former “corporate warrior” and champion of the work-life balance cause. In this fiery discourse, Marsh comes out swinging by calling work-life policies such as flextime, paternity leave and dress-down Fridays “rubbish.” Marsh, a father of four, clarifies that when there are thousands of employees working long hours at jobs they hate to have money to buy things to impress people they dislike, allowing these employees to wear jeans on Fridays does nothing to treat the underlying work-life dilemma.
Marsh counsels that it is up to us, not corporations or governments, to tailor our own work-life balance, emphasizing that doing so doesn’t require a dramatic upheaval in our day-to-day. Instead, Marsh urges us to make small investments in increasing the quality of our relationships, such as spending an extra hour with our children, calling our parents more often or nourishing our spirituality.
These small changes, Marsh contends, can significantly increase our quality of life and may transform society’s definition of a life well-lived.
How to Live Passionatel y – N o Matter Your Age by Isabel Allende
Author Isabel Allende writes stories of passion including the best-selling “The House of the Spirits.” Allende, in her seventies, encourages us to resist the aging of our spirit by living life with a passionate attitude.
Allende candidly describes how she has become “lighter” over the years by letting go of vanity, ambition and grudges. Allende celebrates the freedom she has gained by replacing those “deadly sins” with spirituality, mindfulness and the ability to see value in vulnerability.
Allende advises us to practice living passionately by gracefully accepting life’s peaks and valleys – from success and comedy to loss and tragedy – and by keeping love our focal point.
The Power of Believing That You Can Improve by Carol Dweck
Carol Dweck is a Stanford University professor and a pioneer in the study of how motivation impacts achievement in children. In this session on how to improve the way children learn, Dweck summarizes compelling research that identifies a link between a child’s opinion of his abilities and that child’s willingness to persevere in the face of challenges.
Dweck explains that children with a predominantly “fixed mindset” see their abilities as static and not subject to improvement. As a result, these children lose confidence and motivation when learning new, increasingly difficult tasks. In contrast, children who display a “growth mindset” understand that the harder they work at solving a problem, the higher the chance they’ll succeed. These children regard obstacles as opportunities to expand their skillset and are more likely to maintain their motivation to master a new skill when faced with challenging work and even failure.
Importantly, Dweck outlines the methods parents can use to help children of any age remain confident and motivated when navigating difficult tasks, in and out of school.
The World Needs All Kinds of Minds by Temple Grandin
Temple Grandin is a professor at Colorado State University and a consultant to the livestock industry. She also happens to be autistic.
In this moving talk, Grandin shares details of her life with autism and how her ability to “think in pictures” and pay particular attention to detail lead to her career success. Grandin discusses the breadth of the autism spectrum, noting that brilliant innovators such as Einstein, Mozart and Tesla would likely be diagnosed within the spectrum today.
Grandin is concerned that schools – especially in more rural areas – may not be effectively developing the interests of children on the spectrum who, if mentored properly, may excel in fields such as science, engineering and technology. Grandin is especially troubled by the cuts in art programs and other hands-on classes in which many children on the spectrum may excel.
Grandin refers to the autistic mind as a “fixated mind.” Grandin stresses that if an autistic child is fixated on LEGOs, for example, then educators have to draw on that fixation to expand that child’s interest in building, which may lead the child to a career in engineering or the sciences.